Grief Milestones

So my birthday just passed, next was my parents' anniversary and one of my four brothers' birthdays. Each year, my birthday comes, and I start to think about my friend who passed away a few years ago, coming up on four years actually. I think of him because it was my birthday and then a few weeks later his. He will never have another birthday. Each year his birthday hits me harder than his death anniversary. Each big moment or milestone that I have in my life, I think of him and realize he will never have that. Each place I visit, I know he will never see or be there. More recently, two of my grandparents have recently passed. I look at my siblings and think about the moments and milestones that they got to share with them that I never will. For my grievers, I think you know precisely the types of thoughts I am talking about. As the years have gone on, my grief has continued to evolve. I've been finding that I enjoy finding ways to connect to my friend and his memory.

Below is a link to my favourite meditation. In this meditation, you'll be guided through sending a wish to your loved one and to others. This is a grief rendition of metta meditation, meaning a loving-kindness meditation. TRUTH be told, if you have not lost a loved one, you can still enjoy this meditation and cultivate some extra love for someone who is still living.

Dear friends if you enjoy this meditation, please share the love and send it to a friend!